Why I Hate Craigslist

        My husband and I own a couple properties which we rent out on various vacation rental websites. Since Craigslist has become a NEST OF DISEASED VERMIN SCUM we steer clear of listing our properties there. The other day Lonny decided to give Craigslists another shot because VRBO is turning into a […]

An Evening of Mindful Movement


The problem with watching too many awesome pole dancers on Youtube is that it seriously skews your idea of what you should, or are able to, look like. This is most definitely the case with Natasha Wang, Michelle Stanek, Jenyn Butterfly and Dirdy Birdy. At least Dirdy Birdy, being an instructor, posts lots of tutorial videos, some just for beginners, so I can watch those without thinking that I totally suck. But to be perfectly honest, it just looks better when she tosses her hair than when I do it.

Most of the time these videos are inspirational but I discovered that if I watch a bunch of Natasha Wang and then watch a video of myself … well, it’s not hard make unfavorable comparisons.

For the last few months Sasha Viers, owner of Boulder Spirals, has been choreographing a duet for me and Stacey Mulvey, to perform at An Evening of Mindful Movement, a benefit for the non-profit Angel Organic. It was an opportunity for us to show the public that while pole dancing can be very sexy, it can also be lyrical, athletic and soulful. It ain’t all about humping the pole.

We met once a week for what I started calling “90 Minutes of Terror”. Sasha was amazing to work with as she put Stacey and I through the process of learning how to dance together. We’ve free-styled on the pole together before but this was different. We learned how to “base” each other, to communicate non-verbally, and how to trust – which wasn’t hard, I totally trust Stacey and Sasha. She had us doing flips and standing on each other and hanging off each other and trying just about everything.

Many things we tried and threw out because we weren’t comfortable with it, or didn’t have the flexibility (that would be me) to pull it off, or didn’t have the time to get really good at it. What I loved was the spirit of absolute collaboration. I thought I was going to walk in there and be told what to do but it turned into more of a conversation. More importantly, it was a conversation that valued absolute honesty. When Sasha asked me how I felt about doing a certain move, I was able to say, “I can do it, but I don’t feel like I have the time to do it well. Can we do something that I know I can nail?” and there wasn’t any disappointment or cajoling afterwards. Just a, “I really appreciate your honesty. Now what would you like to try?”

I love performing and our show went well. Stacey had to dig deep to find the time and energy to do this piece and when we hugged after the show, I felt how important it was to her and I was honored to be a part of it. I also feel like with every performance I get a gift. For Cinquo de Burlesqueo I got the Cowgirl, for White Rabbit I got the Cross-Ankle Release, for Steampunk Circus I got the Stargazer, and for this one I got the outside leg hang. I am very conscious of this when I prepare for a show. I ask myself what do I really want nail? what has been scaring me? knowing darn well that by the time I perform it, I will own it.

So we choreographed, rehearsed and performed. Then I watched the video, unfortunately after I had been on a Youtube marathon of watching awesome performances from PoleArt 2012. The result was that I felt kind of “meh” about my dancing; not the choreography, but all the ways in which I could have done better. But I must remind myself that I took pole dancing up this year. I am 40 and have two kids. Knowing that, it’s pretty cool what I can do.

Spin Control


Now that I’ve got several classes of Spinning Pole under my best, I’m feeling a little bit more optimistic. The first time I took the class I felt way out of control and freaked out. I think I’m on my fourth or fifth class and it’s starting to get fun and I actually feel kind of pretty doing it.

I think I have a pathological fear of amnesia because I am the person who is always videotaping everything. I must document everything because what if I hit my head and I forget how to do an ice-skater spin? Wouldn’t that be tragic?

I don’t know if I am annoying Shawneen by videoing the classes, but I figure that I am providing an invaluable service to the studio. After all, she tells me to release my top hand and I’ll be all, “You release your top hand!” But then when I watch the video of myself, I can see exactly what she’s talking about.

Also in the video are Joe and Conrad, two of the most adorable guys around. I love it that Boulder Spirals offers mixed gender classes. Aside from the one time I was hating on all the men in my life (and there are lots of them but not in the way that sounded) and I was sooo excited to go to the one place I wasn’t going to see a man, the pole studio, and there they were, which was great, except one of them left the toilet seat up (consider this your only warning, fellas). That was not cool, but they are so cute I can’t stay mad at them.

When Fetishes Collide

I’m talking about two uniquely female fetishes: shoes and horses. That’s why l love these Timberland Boots I found at my local pusher shoe store, Two Sole Sisters. Don’t they make my feet look like little ponies on a cold, snowy day, all cozy in their horse blankies? Okay, maybe it’s just me.

I Can’t Stop Watching This Video

Natashia Wang posted this on Facebook not long ago and seriously, I can’t stop watching it. It features some of the best pole dancers in the world in a craftily edited video showing off their mad skills. I am amused/irritated by many of the Youtube posts that vilify the performers as whores/prostitutes/strippers when what they […]